It’s sad, but the number one reason people cite for quitting any type of weight-loss or health regimen is their responsibilities to their spouse. At the beginning of a relationship, we often enter into a silent agreement with our partner about how things will be and what roles we will play. If one person starts to make changes — positive OR negative — it can be very threatening to the one who doesn’t want to change. That usually just means that he or she feels insecure at the prospect of your transformation in general. Such a transformation can be very scary to the other person, who may worry that you will outgrow the relationship and leave him or her for someone or something else. Don’t be shy; talk to your partner or spouse about your feelings. Give examples about how his or her behavior has sabotaged your efforts. But don’t be surprised if he or she gets defensive. Give it time and be reassuring, but also be brave and remember what is at stake.
The bottom line is this: Do not let anyone or anything get in the way of your leading the happiest, healthiest life possible!